Since she is en vogue at the moment, let's talk about The Age of Ultron and Black Widow. I have not read any of the comics, so I don't know how the movies have stuck to or diverged from her story lines. But I do know that I like her very much as a character on screen. She is funny, she is confident, she kicks all the ass.
But, of course, people complain. Some of these complaints I find to be completely valid. When you look at the toys and clothing for the newest Avengers film, you will notice that our dear Black Widow is nowhere to be seen. (A friend did find a shirt at Hot Topic, but she's not front and center). And saying she's a slut (yeah, Jeremy Renner, not cool) is obviously not only not okay, but also totally inaccurate. (A post for another time--the "appropriate" number of sexual partners, for both men and women.)
The ongoing complaint of the movies (besides that she hasn't gotten her own: again, totally valid) is that she's a supporting character or that she's too much of a woman when she should just be one of the guys.
So what? So what that she's a woman and has a soft spot in her for her friends? Did we complain when Tony had a soft spot for Pepper? Or when Cap looked for his Peggy Carter? Thor and Jane? Nope, we are glad to see that our heroes with hearts. So why is it a problem when Natasha wants to be a little softer, regret a choice that was taken away from her? I don't want to spoil the movie for people who haven't seen it, but...I don't think that's the Red Ledger we heard about in the first Avengers. It just doesn't make sense to say that it is.
Black Widow is what has enraged the nerds; Dad-Bods have enraged others. Something else will enrage me shortly, I'm sure. Until then...I'm a bad feminist.